Sussex Community Blog: 2013

David Cameron gives Kiss of Death to @thepeoplespier - December 2013 plea to engage with "Hastings Pier Fire Justice & beyond" Facebook Group & Community Development Action, Amber Rudd, please

David Cameron gives Kiss of Death to @thepeoplespier - December 2013 plea to engage with "Hastings Pier Fire Justice & beyond" Facebook Group & Community Development Action, Amber Rudd, please
http://youtu.be/nEl6AKWgqyk

Love from Paul
#FreeRange #Hastings #Buddhist #2066
http://communicatingneeds.org and/or http://apologyplus.org.uk ? - and
http://actionforhastingshappiness.blogspot.co.uk/2011/08/maria-arpa-on-fairness-dialogue-road.html & history - see 9th-11th Sept 2011 on http://actionforhastingshappiness.blogspot.co.uk/p/national-importance-of-hastings-and-st.htm

The latest of 2,000+ YouTube films from Paul Crosland:
http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=UUUqx0gIWHhZZ7iMzSQQ5FeA
OR
Do you prefer to connect more straight-forwardly? :
Tel 0780 70 66 202

& what you can expect from me is here:
http://additionalinfo.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/my-email-footer-is-here-instead-of-on.html

The @paulcrosland Hastings Observer tweet of the week - linking to SussexCommunityBlog and a 2.5 year summary of Pier related #CommunityDevelopment initiatives I have led

#Hastings Pier Fire @thepeoplespier and #CommunityDevelopment via Sussex Community Blog

http://youtu.be/nEl6AKWgqyk

Some Links referred to in this film :

11th June 2011 Hastings Observer lead letter via the left side (page tabs of)http://additionalinfo.blogspot.co.uk

Maybrick44 YouTube Channel http://YouTube.com/maybrick44
(Search there for "Man of Shirts" Film)

Hastings Justice blog: http://hastingsjustice.blogspot.co.uk
(On a tab here you'll The grievance policy commissioned from my company, mediation Support Ltd for Hastings Pier & Whiterock Trust (HPWRT))

Sussex Community Blog (here) & sister site(?) http://ApologyPlus.blogspot.co.uk

Toothpaste007 YouTube Channel http://YouTube.com/toothpaste007

"Hastings Pier Justice & beyond" Facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/hastingsjustice/?ref=ts&fref=ts

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May everyone be loved well,
Paul
#FreeRange #Buddhist
Tel 0780 70 66 202
From Spring 2014, how will you interact with:
1) The Action For Hastings Happiness 'Pay It Forward' Rickshaw?
2) The Book "No Blame, No Pain (Shades of bad/mad/sad/dangerous to know & how we apply these to self/other)?

PS. How do you want to be loved?
PPS. What's my role in that?
http://additionalinfo.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/my-email-footer-is-here-instead-of-on.html

PPPS. May the Spirit of the recently departed Nelson Mandela live on in you:

With 45days left on the Hastings Pier Community Shares scheme the average investment is just £210

These days talking about money seems to be a greater taboo than talking about sex etc.
Just as the question "What did you do during the war?" is a poignant question, so too is "How much did you pledge to the pier?". Are we holding ourselves and each other to account? How much of our wealth is a sensible amount to put into the pier; a tithe (one tenth)?

Some own no home (myself included) and so a significant contribution to the pier is a step away from home ownership, yet a step towards community. Is this foolishness or the act praised in the Bible - the small amount the widow gave was larger than any amount given by the rich.
Will this be "a people's pier" or largely a Hastings and St Leonards' Home Owners' pier? What percentage of the people here own their homes, let alone have a share in the pier? Respond or leave these questions as you will.

If you give money as a result of following this link, please let me know so that I can count it towards the £10,000-£20,000* target I have set for raising funds

Why not increase your commitment to your community & its pier now?

What I'm also doing to help you hold your local Pier owning organisation accountable is sharing this playlist:

http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLM4IagQQExoxFLPqCc8OLd8I3xyke2kQJ

Love from Paul #FreeRange #Buddhist #2066
http://communicatingneeds.org and/or http://apologyplus.org.uk ? - and
http://actionforhastingshappiness.blogspot.co.uk/2011/08/maria-arpa-on-fairness-dialogue-road.html & history - see 9th-11th Sept 2011 on http://actionforhastingshappiness.blogspot.co.uk/p/national-importance-of-hastings-and-st.html 07807066202 (Tel).

To practice a less well developed version of communicating via the four steps of making an OBSERVATION, expressing a FEELING, linking the feeling to a causal NEED & making a REQUEST:
1) My observation is that I've had less than 3 hours sleep
2) I'm feeling raw
3) The needs/values I'm in touch with are peace, harmony, acceptance of difference?, (joy in diversity?), learning/wisdom, ease, friendship, challenge & break-through beyond all the previous failures.
4) My request is that you watch at least part one of Maria Arpa's video about the fairness button that is easily triggered within each of us. Could you, within a week, let me know if you'd like some interaction with Maria Arpa by phoning me on 0780 70 66 202 and then we can clarify how we might get more of what we want from Maria and, like with everyone else, less of what we don't want or don't believe serves our (higher) interests well.
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My parting advice to stay connected with someone is to avoid the "3 Ds of disconnection" :
1) Deserve-based language
2) Demand
3) Denial of Responsibility

There's a 4th D but I've forgotten it. Time for some humility around what I don't know in terms of effective strategies to bring people into NVC (nonviolent communication), or at least into mutual comprehension.

May everyone be loved well,
Paul
#FreeRange #Buddhist

+ Action For Hastings Happiness 'Pay It Forward' Rickshaw 'Captain'
& servant of the (WisdomCompassion?) machine that http://YouTube.com/toothpaste007 aspires to be for the world
(beyond my consciousness)
The latest of 2,000+ YouTube films from Paul Crosland:
http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=UUUqx0gIWHhZZ7iMzSQQ5FeA
OR
Do you prefer to connect more straight-forwardly? :
Tel 0780 70 66 202

PS. How do you want to be loved?
PPS. What's my role in that?
PPPS. My preferred ways of co-creating a "more caring and sharing
community" around you me and us is on my home page:
http://additionalinfo.blogspot.co.uk
& what you can expect from me is here:
http://additionalinfo.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/my-email-footer-is-here-instead-of-on.html

*"Of course, there's nothing wrong with being wrong", by which I mean that there is no fixed moral value attached to making mistakes. They are what they are - not ‘good’ or ‘bad’. Also - from an F.M. Alexander perspective it is by ‘being wrong’ that we break habits and discover the flow of life.

Taking on Hastings Pier Fundraising Responsibility

Asked today by a new contact at my office at Southwater Area Community Centre: "What do you do?", I simply said:
"My company, Mediation Support Ltd works on conflicts, in particular when someone experiencing a grievance comes to me for support.
I also fundraise for the pier" Simples.

I make films too to gear myself up to go fundraising, with a commitment to raise £10-£20,000 by close of play for the share scheme (January?):

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f2GFTcKEwAw

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May everyone be loved well,
Paul
#FreeRange #Buddhist
YouTube.com/toothpaste007
TWITTER : @paulcrosland

The latest of 2,000+ YouTube films from Paul Crosland:
http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=UUUqx0gIWHhZZ7iMzSQQ5FeA
OR
Do you prefer to connect more straight-forwardly? :
Tel 0780 70 66 202

Love from Paul
#FreeRange #Buddhist
and
http://actionforhastingshappiness.blogspot.co.uk/2011/08/maria-arpa-on-fairness-dialogue-road.html & history - see 9th-11th Sept 2011 on http://actionforhastingshappiness.blogspot.co.uk/p/national-importance-of-hastings-and-st.html

To practice a less well developed version of communicating via the four steps of making an OBSERVATION, expressing a FEELING, linking the feeling to a causal NEED & making a REQUEST:
1) My observation is that I've had less than 3 hours sleep
2) I'm feeling raw
3) The needs/values I'm in touch with are peace, harmony, acceptance of difference?, (joy in diversity?), learning/wisdom, ease, friendship, challenge & break-through beyond all the previous failures.
4) My request is that you watch at least part one of Maria Arpa's video about the fairness button that is easily triggered within each of us. Could you, within a week, let me know if you'd like some interaction with Maria Arpa by phoning me on 0780 70 66 202 and then we can clarify how we might get more of what we want from Maria and, like with everyone else, less of what we don't want or don't believe serves our (higher) interests well.

PS. How do you want to be loved?
PPS. What's my role in that?
PPPS. My preferred ways of co-creating a "more caring and sharing
community" around you me and us is on my home page:
http://additionalinfo.blogspot.co.uk
& what you can expect from me is here:
additionalinfo.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/my-email-footer-is-here-instead-of-on.html

For the Pier Community Shares scheme I will raise at least £10,000 & if Hastings Pier Charity negotiate about the unpaid Mediation Support Ltd invoice, possibly double that

Dear Ray,

My intuition is to share this with you, Maria Arpa and Paul Baker (also from the September 2011 Dialogue Road Map training). Seeing as we've only exchanged pleasantries once in 18 months (paths not crossing) & what with the unpaid Mediation Support Ltd invoice for £150 (which I'm willing to write off but still feel undervalued in relation to), I don't know what terms we are on.

Can we meet for coffee before I set a target of raising £20,000 for the Community Share Scheme in the next month by visiting shop-keepers as I describe in this film?:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xgEr3MR9i9w

Meeting for a coffee would be great; Mondays to Wednesdays are usually the exceptions to my availability but try me.

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May everyone be loved well,
Paul
#FreeRange #Buddhist

+ Action For Hastings Happiness 'Pay It Forward' Rickshaw 'Captain'
& servant of the (WisdomCompassion?) machine that http://YouTube.com/toothpaste007 aspires to be for the world
(beyond my consciousness)
The latest of 2,000+ YouTube films from Paul Crosland:
http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=UUUqx0gIWHhZZ7iMzSQQ5FeA
OR
Do you prefer to connect more straight-forwardly? :
Tel 0780 70 66 202
http://additionalinfo.blogspot.co.uk
& what you can expect from me is here:
http://additionalinfo.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/my-email-footer-is-here-instead-of-on.html

& if you want to make it easier for me to do what you want me to do try http://communicatingneeds.org

Parting Shot: "Of course, there's nothing wrong with being wrong", by which I mean that there is no fixed moral value attached to making mistakes. They are what they are - not ‘good’ or ‘bad’. Also - from an F.M. Alexander perspective it is by ‘being wrong’ that we break habits and discover the flow of life" (Quote from "DB" - the Restorative Justice guy I try to emulate.)

Sussex Community Services

From Spring 2014, please use the Action For Hastings Happiness 'Pay It Forward' Rickshaw along the prom (at no charge).
And why not take away to read "No Blame, No Pain"

PS. How do you want to be loved?
PPS. What's my role in that?
http://additionalinfo.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/my-email-footer-is-here-instead-of-on.html

Justice Fiasco and the ongoing responsibility of those who were on the pier that night

What would be the best title for a documentary made from the films on the blog since the October 2010 pier fire? "Hastings Pier Fire Justice Fiasco"?

Now that the two arrestees have come of age (ie both over 21), please come forward by adding to YouTube (anonymously if you want) your film "What I did that led to Hastings Pier Fire". (Google this phrase to see community contributions so far to taking responsibility for what is surely Hastings & St Leonards' shame?).

I don't know what the effect has been of the Facebook group "Hastings Pier Justice", or on this Sussex Community blog or Hastings Justice blog (http://hastingsjustice.blogspot.co.uk) or Ethical Outings in Hastings blog (http://ethicaloutings.blogspot.co.uk); created to serve the cause of community development about when it is best to "out" people or how best to encourage people to out themselves.

For the persistent young offender who has been tarred with the brush of being the main individual culpable in the mysterious case of Hastings Pier Fire, my question is "What is it like for you to be so accused?".

I look forward to resolution of these matters, and a new community-wide engagement in justice in Hastings & St Leonards by the time those arrested for the Hastings Pier Fire have reached 25 i.e. by 2016. May they have the courage to "out" themselves and speak about this matter of local heritage and may the community create a legacy of a culture in which justice is seen to be done by all, and justice is done for all,

Paul Crosland

Director, Mediation Support Ltd

Southwater Area Community Centre

1-2 Stainsby St, St Leonards.

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